Involuntary celibacy (colloquially incel) is chronic near-total or total absence in a person’s sexuality of intimate relationships or sexual intercourse that is occurring for reasons other than voluntary celibacy, asexuality, antisexualism, sexual abstinence, unreasonable in mate criteria and unfounded fears/dogmas.
A couple of years ago one involuntary celibate person said that, according to him, most people are to be considered in a state of absolute involuntary celibacy when they were, against their wishes, unable to obtain either of these things in more than six months :
1. a relationship
2. unpaid sex
I agree with the definition and think that more than 6 months without both of those things, and against your desire, are abnormal enough to be called incel.
More important than the exact number of months, however, is whether long periods of celibacy are a recurring pattern in an individual’s D/S/R history. Many people go without D/S/R for six-month or longer stretches, but rarely experience such problems as a constantly recurring pattern.
This goes for most people. There are, however, those people who could be considered completely non-celibate with only one of those things in their life. For example, an asexual person could only be satisfied with a relationship while a person not wanting any relationships with anybody could be satisfied with only sex. The key thing is desire.
Also, it is important to note that only unpaid sex is considered to be relevant for whether or not somebody is an involuntary celibates. Involuntary celibates who use prostitutes are still considered involuntary celibates.
What isn’t incel(!)
Obviously, the key factor in somebody being involuntarily celibate is desire.
People who don’t want either unpaid sex or a relationship should not be called involuntary celibates simply because they don’t have what they don’t want anyway.
More to read about
A Wikipedia article on incel http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Involuntary_celibacy
A Love-shy.com wiki article on incel http://www.love-shy.com/lswiki/Incel