Couple of hours ago I asked my incel friend about why he’s so much in favor of me deleting this blog and why is he so hostile towards me because I don’t want to. He is a good guy, decent, honest, smart, with mostly libertarian views on economy and a bit on the right when it comes to social matters. We used to get along great before but I honestly thought he hates me by now.
He replied with: I don’t hate you, I just think you’re irresponsible. Risking bringing attention to your real identity is reckless. There is zero chance your agenda will succeed. Therefore you are recklessly risking your well being for no possible benefit.
I think my reply is worthy of creating a post about it : I know what I’m doing is dangerous. It is very likely that I will get hurt one day because of it. This first dox attempt didn’t succeed because they had no real info about me at all and because I knew the info on the person who wanted to dox me so she couldn’t mess up a life of a person she erroneously thought was me. I know it might be different next time. I worry about it a lot. I might suffer a lot if some lunatic succeeds. You think all kinds of trolls haven’t found out about that blog by now? They have. And I am scared. My enemies are insane. They want to punish a person who wants to help people in severe agony by not violating anybody’s rights just because these ideas don’t fit their insane agendas and dogmas.
You see, I think you’re wrong about chances of my agenda succeeding.
For example, have you looked at incel communities in 2006? I did. They were nothing. A wasteland. No posters, no registration needed, 10 registered posters per community, one post every month or so. Almost all the topics were about extreme Gilmartian love-shyness.
Who would have guessed that those places would even ever have moderators one day, that you’d need to actually register to post there or that they would ever develop such rich history?
My point being – things change. Every movement started off small.
Who even knew about incel 10 years ago? 5 years ago? Most people don’t know about it today.
The difference between what you guys want and what I want is that you want to talk about various issues endlessly and do nothing but sit on your asses while actually want to change things.
Can you really be sure that, with the development of technology, especially Internet, the word “incel” won’t be widely known in, like 5-10 years?
Can you really be sure that in 10-20 years incel organizations won’t appear? Or that, in 30 years, these organizations won’t start asking something from the government?
Well, I can’t. And I think neither can you. I believe you oppose this because of your right wing attitudes more than because you’re sure that these things won’t happen.
You never know. You just don’t.
You have learned a lot about many of the guys here since you joined. Most of them have been going nowhere for years. They don’t get dates at all, they’re just grumpier and angrier with each day month and year that passes. And you know that many of them have tried to change, to become more attractive and to get a woman. They failed. Most of them failed completely and are failing every day.
There are incel blogs out there. Some just writers are just whining, others offer solutions.
But there is no blog like this one.
And to destroy something which might be the first ever incarnation of an idea that could become a real social and political issue one day, the first blog talking about incel with a goal of actually making it beatable for many, many people…. I think it would be wrong.
Despite the dangers I am well aware of.