This guy called car dance asked me some questions some days ago. He’s not that bright but a nice enough kid and I promised to reply. Here it is…
1)”what caused you to be incel?”
What caused my incel was mostly the fact I didn’t have any female friends in childhood and didn’t have any female friends until I was like 18 years old. What’s more important is that I gained no romantic and sexual experiences during the crucial teen years due to a (unjustly) unrecognized disorder called love-shyness, which made so frightened of girls that I couldn’t even meet IRL with those I would meet through a cell phone chat or online.
” some incel people blame it on women, some blame their parents, but none blame themselves for being standoffish, unkempt, possibly ugly and cruel (I haven’t seen pictures of you so I can’t assume)”
Lots of weird stuff written here. Unkempt people generally don’t complain of incel as they have other problems like homelessness and poverty. Some incels do claim they’re standoffish and MANY claim they are ugly, even that looks are the only thing that can cause incel. Being cruel generally doesn’t stop you from being incel and even makes you more attractive in some cases, unless your cruelty is clumsily and unreasonably aimed at women. My looks were never the reason I’m incel. You can’t make such generalizations if you’ve never been a part of incel communities.
“but it seems like you blame your parents the most. am i wrong?”
Yes, you are wrong. I blame my parents for not helping me for 10 years, not for creating my incel.
2)” if incels like you can stop being incel on their own, why do they need government programs to help them?”
Well, regarding the fact I’m currently noncel- even though I am not incel now by my own definition I’m still on very slippery ground, depending on Internet to get dates. I’m currently seeing a person who I can’t stand just because she puts out and was rejected or lack chemistry on 5 other dates I had last month. I will end it with that person I can’t stand very soon and it’s very possible I might not find sex or a relationship within the next 6 months, thus becoming incel again.
But if I don’t become incel I will not need government help. However, I’m not doing this blog for myself. Incels who have never gotten a kiss and are 40 will certainly need a government program to help them.
“why not start your own company and make a million dollars helping other incels find partners?”
I just don’t think this is possible for now. I don’t see how any bank would give me a loan for something like this and how would this service be registered. What needs to happen first is the introduction of the term incel in mass public.
3) “what is your romantic goal in life? fuck a lot of women, get married to one and have babies?”
I’m currently closer to the first goal and don’t consider having a family for now. But I haven’t met the person I would be in a real, serious relationship yet so this might change one day.
“when will you know your quest is complete and you no longer are incel or threatened by incel ways?”
Difficult to say. I would know that my own fight against my incel will be over and I will no longer be incel or threatened by incel happening again in two cases….
1. If a find a partner I will remain with for a lifetime – but how much time will pass before I know that person is the one?
2. If I regularly start finding sex or relationships in intervals less than six months.