A woman on a thread discussing why older virgins are unattractive
The reason for it is simple, when a man has sex he is pretty much guaranteed to have an orgasm, a woman isn’t. An inexperienced woman would most certainly be less enjoyable than an experienced woman but it will likely still feel good for the man, but for a woman having sex with an inexperienced man can be a very unpleasant experience. Men also have a reputation for not taking criticism of their bedroom skills very well, I don’t know how true it is but I’ve overhead and been told by other women to never criticize a guys bedroom skills or he will freak out, a stereotype that makes women even less inclined to bother with inexperienced men.
The only way out being prostitutes, escorts or sex surrogates, which many men cannot access due to their local unavailability, shyness and anxiety issues and criminalization of these services.
After a certain age it is almost entirely impossible for a woman to accept male virginity or be attracted to a male virgin. I know everybody has their own story about a lucky male friend that says differently but could my experiences and those of members of love-shy.com seem to confirm that quote.
Older male virgin face a horrible situation of female rejection, society’s disgust and their own biology going awry… Eivind Berge had something to say on this
Masturbation is likely a much bigger problem than you imagine. While it is true that a lot of men can get away with masturbating and even watching porn and still have meaningful relationships, It is much worse when you are a virgin at such an advanced age. You are not comparable to them because being a virgin for so long means maladaptive patterns of arousal and stimulation have ossified in your brain. The deleterious effects of porn and masturbation are to some extent (but by no means always) counteracted by timely and ongoing sexual experience, but when you are a virgin in your 30s, the harm is bound to be much worse. Prolonged celibacy is much more harmful than commonly acknowledged because all the masturbation robs you of your ability to enjoy women even if you get them, in ways you probably don’t expect because you think you function when you masturbate. But it is not the same and a real vagina will now be less satisfying than you think because you have desensitized yourself through unhealthy stimulation.
This seems absolutely correct too, and I’ve had a similar experience (something I will write about more in further posts).
My only advice to every male virgin over the age of 18 is – YOU SHOULD NOT WAIT. Get that prostitute/escort tomorrow. And if you’re unlucky enough to suffer a traumatic experience try again. It’s tough and in some cases even dangerous but there is no other way. There is simply no time to wait – before you know it, you will be old and your body will be ill suited for sex.